Success Tip #84 -
Take the Word "Try" Out of Your Vocabulary
By
Ike Krieger,
Speaker, Author and Mentor,
President of BusinessSuccessBuilder, Inc.,
Van Nuys, CA, U.S.A.
ike[at]businesssuccessbuilder.com
http://www.BusinessSuccessBuilder.com
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© 2006 Ike
Krieger
How
many times have you heard yourself or other people
make the following statement?
“I’ll
try.”
I'll
bet you've heard it a lot.
Well,
what’s wrong with that? After all, from an early age
you’ve been told. "Whatever you do…always try
hard.”
The
act of trying may actually be counterproductive. Trying
is not doing.
What
price do you pay in your business and in your life
for trying rather than doing?
The
following exercise should clarify this abstract concept.
Ready?
Place your pen or pencil on the table or desk in front
of you. Now… try to pick it up.
Did
you pick up your writing utensil?
If
you did, I have one thing to say, “You didn’t follow
the instructions.”
You
weren’t asked to pick up your pen or pencil… you were
asked to TRY and pick it up.
Trying
will rarely produce your desired result.
How
often have you said to yourself… or others… "I
really want to accomplish my short and/or long term
goals?" How many times have you followed that
statement with, "and this time I’m really going
to try?"
You
can probably remember a project, a task, or even a
New Year’s resolution that was left incomplete, about
which you can sincerely say, “Well, I tried.”
You
had every intention to complete the task. You remember
trying to accomplish what you’d intended. You remember
the task being left unfinished.
“Trying”
dilutes intention.
The
more you want to or try to accomplish a task, the
more challenging the completion of that task becomes.
In
Episode V of the Star Wars saga there is line of dialogue
delivered by the character of the Jedi mentor, Yoda.
Yoda gives a set of instructions to his pupil, Luke
Skywalker.
Luke
responds to Yoda’s instructions with the words, “I’ll
try.”
Yoda
counters quietly, and with conviction. He says, “Try
not. Do, or do not. There is no try.”
I
urge you to adopt this cinematic saying. Keep it close
to you at all times. Make it a part of your daily
action plan. Write it out. Paste it on the wall.
We
all want to do the right things. We all try to do
the right things. However, the mindsets of wanting
and trying come with a cost.
That
cost is best summed up in this excerpt from the first
in a series of books entitled “Conversations with
God” by Neale Donald Walsch. Walsch’s literary depiction
of God shares these words, “You can not have that
for which you ask. Nor can you have anything you want.
The very request is a statement of lack and your saying
you want produces only want in your reality.”
Here’s
your success tip. Remove statements that include the
words “try” and “want” from your personal vocabulary.
Those
who follow my work know about the “Secret Language
of Success”™. This secret language does not include
the statement “I’ll try.” Focus on action oriented
statements like, “I’ll do the task”, or “I’ll complete
the task.”
The
next time you hear someone say, “’I’ll try to do the
task”… rather than, “I’ll do the task”…make sure you
ask them to clarify their plan.
Ask
them to spell out clearly the steps that will result
in a completed project.
Review
the time frame. Discuss openly the consequences of
leaving the task unfinished. You can demonstrate your
support by simply asking, “What support do you need
to complete the task?”
Here's
an exercise designed to build up the muscle of “doing.”
Over
a two week period keep a simple journal in which you
log the frequency of the phrase “I’ll try” in your
environment. If you’re the source of the comment,
ask yourself “What specific action can I take, right
away, to move the project along?”
If
someone else is the source of the statement you can
ask, “What might stop you from completing the task?”
Bring it out in the open so it can be handled. Bring
it out in the open before the frustration sets in.
If
you choose to take on this homework assignment remember
to say to yourself, “I’ll do this assignment” rather
than, “I’ll try to do this assignment”.
Make
this shift in your communications style and watch
more tasks and projects get completed.
As
simple as it may seem, this shift in language really
makes a difference.
To
your success.
Ike
Krieger is a speaker, author and mentor.
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